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When war is within the walls: a domestic violence story

Decades of conflict in Iraq have left women and girls facing a different form of violence inside their own homes.

Written by Tarryn Pegna | 24 Jul 2024

A small store with brightly-coloured paper and party items for sale.

After encouragement, training and financial support from Tearfund’s local partner, Nisreen now runs a small business that helps to support her family. Credit: Tearfund

A war started just over 20 years ago in Iraq. Although the country is now in its most stable period since then, it remains fragile. The impacts of conflict have left deep scars on society and the economy. Armed violence does still exist sporadically in the open, but war is still being fought on another, more hidden front. Inside the home.

In her report titled War Waged in the Home, Miriam Puttick (who works for Ceasefire Centre for Civilian Rights), talks about patterns of physical, emotional and sexual abuse against women and the dangers that grow exponentially within the house during and in the wake of violent conflicts outside of it.

It’s a devastating phenomenon that we see in many of the places where we work around the world as protracted situations of war normalise violence and help to strengthen traditional roles in society which often leave women more dependent on men and with fewer options for protection.

Puttick’s report references more than 33,000 cases of domestic violence* in Iraq in 2022 alone, but she suggests that the true number of cases is likely to be much higher as victims are unable to report the abuse or fear the consequences of doing so. In many instances, women who experience this type of abuse find themselves feeling isolated, forced to suffer in silence and afraid to seek help. In some cases it’s because none is available to them and in others because seeking the help marks them as a social outcast.

A local Tearfund partner in Iraq has been working to support women facing situations of domestic violence.

‘It’s a devastating phenomenon that we see in many of the places where we work around the world as protracted situations of war normalise violence and help to strengthen traditional roles in society which often leave women more dependent on men and with fewer options for protection.’

Nisreen’s** story of designing a better situation

Nisreen is 30 years old. She and her husband have two children and, as is reasonably common in the community, they were living with his family. However, emotional abuse from her in-laws made life unbearable and forced the family to move out of their home to a rented house. This made life difficult in a different way as her husband’s income as a taxi driver wasn’t enough to cover the family’s needs. This left them struggling to pay their bills and provide for their children. Nisreen says she felt isolated and depressed, longing for some support.

Then, a kind relative pointed Nisreen towards our local partner where she was able to receive counselling sessions to help her process the experiences of abuse that she’d experienced. Nisreen also took part in life skills training and other activities provided by the partner which, she says, helped to raise her spirits. She describes how healing it felt to share and participate in the activities.

The life skills training also encouraged her to look around for solutions to some of the practical difficulties facing her. Nisreen is a talented graphic designer and she was inspired to launch a social media page, showcasing her talent and looking for work. She also applied for a small grant offered by our partner and received essential business training, a printer and the other materials needed to start a party decoration and gift shop and build her design business creating inspiring invitations and marketing materials. Nisreen’s confidence has grown and her work now generates a steady income which makes a difference to her whole family.

Nisreen says, ‘Graphic design helped me to assist my husband. I am very proud of myself because I can help to provide for my family.’

‘Graphic design helped me to assist my husband. I am very proud of myself because I can help to provide for my family.’
Nisreen, Iraq

Making a difference for women and girls

As part of our partner’s project, they carried out a short survey with 518 women and girls in the local area. Of the 518 asked, only 365 of them said that they feel safe where they live. For this reason, our partner has been working to provide a secure place for women and girls to come and safely tell their stories and share their feelings.

Thanks to the help of Tearfund supporters, 1,447 women like Nisreen have received protection and support, ranging from counselling and legal assistance to psychological support and cash assistance.

Almost 100 women participated in a two-day life skills training where they learnt about decision-making, goal-setting, communication, perseverance and problem-solving. Now, 18 women like Nisreen have started small businesses after taking part in business training and receiving a small financial grant. These new entrepreneurs use their skills in a variety of fields, including tailoring, food sales, knitting, small restaurants, small shops and nail salons.

These initiatives have helped empower women facing domestic violence to feel supported, increase their income and build more resilient livelihoods.

*What is Domestic Violence?

Domestic violence is abuse (physical, emotional, financial and/or sexual) against a person by someone in their family or home. This includes intimate partners and ex-partners, immediate family members and other relatives.

**Names have been changed for protection.

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Written by  Tarryn Pegna

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